Let’s Talk: Overcoming Rejection.
Everyone goes through rejection. Some of the lucky few will not have to go through it as much as others but, at some point or another, you are going to have to deal with some form of rejection.
I am a writer and I love writing. I can’t think of anything else I’d want to spend the rest of my life doing. But sometimes rejection gets a bit too much.
Rejection is something I’ve thought about a lot recently – as a student who is about to graduate and go into the real world I need to start thinking about the future and what I want to do. I have areas of writing that I love and thought the best thing to do would be to apply for internships and placements in those areas. But when you receive rejection after rejection from companies because you don’t have enough experience I begin to wonder: what is the point?
I would take hours out of my normal day of doing university work to apply for these jobs – alter and edit my CV, write up cover letters and have them proof read a couple of times before applying. But then I receive the dreaded rejection, and I think, why did I waste time even applying when I could have been working on something that is important?
Although the above is a little bit pessimistic I wanted to try and turn this around and think positively about it. So here it goes:
Sometimes, more often than not, things don’t go our way. We get knocked down, plans fall through and it doesn’t seem fair. In the words of my mother, “life isn’t fair” and sometimes you just need to think fu*k it!
Everyone goes through things that challenge them, you just need to use the things that knock you back to build yourself up stronger again.
Sometimes things will absolutely destroy you but maybe it’s a sign that that’s not what you were put on this earth to do. Take this destruction to figure out who you are, what you want to do and how you can put back the pieces again.
Sometimes it will take no time at all, sometimes it seems never ending and you wonder if you’ll ever see the other side.
In second year I thought I had a skill in confessional poetry, but a bad grade on my portfolio knocked me back so much that I just didn’t want to write anymore. Then I found screenwriting. I realised my experience and passion for acting helped me massively when writing for script and screen and now I look back and wonder why I was ever so hurt about a bad grade in poetry.
It is all subjective as well. The thing about being a writer or a creative in general is there are going to be people who love what you create and others who hate it. I’ve finally learnt that that is okay and something that I can’t change.
If you believe that you will be okay then that is enough. In fact, you will be better than okay – you will be fiercer, better, smarter, kinder, stronger. You can choose to wallow in this rejection, or you can learn from it and come back like an unstoppable force with a fire within you to show them that they have missed out on an amazing, talented individual.
Set your sights on your goals, come back focussed and determined, work on yourself and move forward every day. Don’t let this rejection define you, let it better you and show those who rejected you what you can do.